Over a year ago, i was speaking to a friend called wain, and we were talking about what we were working on at that stage in our life. It was during this time that he went a little bit deeper and was curious to know how i perceived myself. So, when i said that i would soon be releasing the book, he wasn’t happy to just give me positive feedback and then to move on; he wanted to see what was going on for me.
A big difference i was surprised by this as i was used to people giving me positive feedback when i spoke about something like this. But wain, on the other hand, is not someone who has the tendency to say things that a lot of other people say. After he said, “how do you see yourself?” i thought about what he said and it became clear that i didn’t have an empowering view of myself.
Through being so focused on doing things, it stopped me from being aware of where i was coming from. An important question in other words, i was so focused on what i wanted to achieve that it caused me to be unaware of why i wanted to achieve it. Ultimately, looking into how i saw myself was a way to get in touch with my self-image.
With this in mind, it became clear that i had to be coming from the right place and that it wasn’t enough to simply do things. In this context, the quality of the work that i produced was only part of it; the other part was seeing myself as someone who produced quality work. A big effect how i saw myself would have an impact on how i presented my work, what i did with it and even the energy that was behind it.
Therefore, if this part of the equation was not right, i would only be able to get so far. Part of me would be on board, but another part of me wouldn’t be going in the same direction. What i came to see was that every part of me wasn’t going in the same direction; i was sabotaging myself.
Shinning the light after being asked this question by wain, i could have ended up getting defensive. As a result of this, my mind would have been closed and it wouldn’t have been possible for me to grow. I knew that he was coming from the right place and i was open-minded, so fortunately this didn’t happen.
Final thoughts this is just one the many powerful questions that wain has asked me over the years; his mind is like a guided missile. The difference is that he is not interested in destroying buildings; he is interested in destroying false beliefs and outlooks. Timetorelax.